Ok so technically I went “around” the world: NY->Vietnam->Cambodia->Thailand->Singapore->Hawaii->NY. But mainly I did my adventuring in Southeast Asia. What did I learn?
- I dislike being non-“productive”. I didn’t get to work on my programming projects while traveling, and sometimes I wished I had gotten the chance to. I guess more time spent on traveling, self-development, gaining perspective means less time spent for career goals.
- If you fail to plan, plan to fail. The city planners of Singapore essentially play Sim City and plan every aspect of the city’s development, from zoning to sewage systems, to a T. Singapore is also ridiculously well run and efficient. I believe the latter is a causal effect, to at least a large degree, of the former.
- Do not control your thoughts and emotions. Become aware of them. The harder you try not to think about something, the more you think about it (study). What matters is not what you’re feeling, but how you feel about what you’re feeling. Awareness of your thoughts and emotions is a powerful ability to have, and is one of the main goals of meditation.
- You can learn from every situation. My monk instructor in the two-day meditation workshop that I took taught me this too. In the context of meditation, he taught me to not be so hard on myself when I catch my mind wandering during meditation, and to learn from the situation (e.g. what my mind liked to think about, how I felt about what I was thinking about, etc.). I feel it also applies to the greater context of life: we can always learn something about ourselves, other people, or the world in any situation, good or bad, success or failure. Learning, and self-development, is a never ending journey.
- Appreciate the things we have in life. There are the little things, like drinkable tap water, and air conditioning, but what impacted me most was my experience teaching English in a rural Cambodian village for a week. I met an American philanthropist (http://anywayfoundation.org/) named Ray in Phnom Penh and he invited me to teach for a little bit at an elementary school he had just built. In a place where cassava farms and rubber plantations stretch as far as the eye can see, where electricity is a luxury and daily temperatures rise above 100 degrees F, the kids I taught English to bubbled with enthusiasm to learn. They were so eager to learn, definitely much more so than I was when I was 9 years old, but before Ray donated his time and money, they had no pens and paper, no textbooks, a shortage of teachers, and no school building. Education means so much to them, but they did not even have the means to pursue it. I am truly grateful to have had the opportunities that I’ve had in life so far, for example access to education, and I hope to help those who don’t have them yet experience them.
- People make the experience. My traveling experience could not have been nearly as fun and educational without the people that I met and befriended from all around the world: other fellow backpackers, the locals (restaurant owners, tuk tuk drivers, hostel staff, etc.), random people on the streets or waiting in line. Everyone has a unique and interesting story, and one can learn a lot from others.
- Live life with authenticity. Because in the end, it’s between you and yourself; it was never between you and them anyway. When you are on your death bed, you will judge your own life. Will you judge it based on how well you lived your life the way others wanted you to, or how well you lived your life the way you wanted to? I learned of the following poem from Ray, the American philanthropist who I met in Cambodia:
The Paradoxical Commandments
by Dr. Kent M. Keith
People are often unreasonable, illogical and self centered;
Forgive them anyway.
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives;
Be kind anyway.
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies;
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you;
Be honest and frank anyway.
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight;
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous;
Be happy anyway.
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow;
Do good anyway.
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough;
Give the world the best you’ve got anyway.
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and your God;
It was never between you and them anyway.
I hope to travel abroad more. Traveling, and taking the path less traveled, provides something that is easily lost in the hectic and fast paced city that I live in: perspective.
Also published on Medium.